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Wednesday, 6 June 2018

Lessons so far....

You may want to check out my last post before reading this one. Me and Thalia are now eight weeks in to our relationship - which is pretty crazy! There's rather a lot that we've been learning over that time about each other, ourselves, God, and love. Thought I'd try and share some of the more poignant ones....

You will start wanting to spend a lot more time with each other. Like, a lot. Pretty much all the time you have. "Free time"? What is this strange phrase? But yeah. After you get over that initial excitement - you're going to need to figure out a way to balance out the time you have with each other with the other commitments that you have. And sleep. That's important too. Do that.

For Christian couples - setting physical boundaries before you start playing around too much with physical touch is a very good idea. Being respectful to each other - and to God - should be important for each of you. So honour that.

All the hugs. All the hugs. Okay, maybe not all of you have the love language of physical touch, or aren't as huggy. You're just missing out. ;)

Be prepared to have most of your pre-conceived ideas changed fairly quickly. Then go back to them later, and figure out why they were important to you. Because there's probably a reason.

First times for most things are going to be at least a little bit awkward. And that's totally okay.

Mutual trust is built by honest sharing, of things that are difficult to share. By not having secrets from each other. And that takes time, and can be really challenging. But it's also incredibly rewarding.

"I love you" won't ever feel like enough.

Family matters. Where you can, build bridges, make connections, find common ground. But still be yourself.

Talk about the important things. But sometimes, it's okay to just be together silently for a time, enjoying that feeling of being together.

When you're out in public, people are going to notice that you're together. That's okay. People do that.

You're going to want to bring each other along to pretty much everything, but that won't always be appropriate. Figure out ways of doing that without feeling like you're letting each other down - because you're not. Sometimes circumstances are like that.

You won't ever be enough for each other in and of yourselves. And you can't solve all of each other's problems. But that doesn't mean you can't help. And you'll certainly want to!

Love is rather crazy sometimes. Okay, most of the time.

That's....probably enough for now. I'm sure there are many that I've missed, and many that I could add in a few weeks' time. But hopefully that is helpful, or interesting, or amusing, or all three. Until next time :)